Shakerules Diaries

If you find yourself in love with someone who does
not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is
nothing wrong with you. Love just didn’t choose to
rest in the other persons heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and you
don’t love him/her, feel honored that love came
and called at your door, but gently refuse the
gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do
not cause pain.

How you deal with love is how you deal with you,
and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys,
even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and he/she falls
in love with you, and then love chooses to leave,
do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, let
it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning.
You will know in time.

Remember that you don’t choose love. Love chooses
you. All you can really do is accept it for all
its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the
way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out
and give it away.

Give it back to the person who brought it alive in
you.

Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give
it to the world around you in anyway you can.
There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been
so long without love, they understand love only as
a need. They see their hearts as empty places that
will be filled by love, and they begin to look at
love as something that flows to them rather than
from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to
overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert
to seeing their love as need. They cease to be
someone who generates love and instead become
someone who seeks love.

They forget that the secret of love is that it is
a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by
giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has
its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason
for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or
coerce it, or reason it into saying. You can only
embrace it when it arrives and give it away when
it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from
your heart or from the heart of your lover, there
is nothing you can do and there is nothing you
should do.

Love always has been and always will be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your
life.

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